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I have never met a man who wasn’t in search of that special relationship called ‘true love’; many believe it is the bedrock foundation of long-term relationship (LTR) but I disagree. What most men want is long-term gratification (LTG), maybe even control, maybe even trust and commitment, especially when the steamy moments cool. Too many men expect a long-term relationship to just pop out of the box, and provide a lifetime — or at least a couple of weeks — of pure, nonstop bliss. You’ve already failed but how did that happen? How can something that started so beautifully — or so you think in your fantasy world of La-La Land —, something you want so badly it hurts, just evaporate in a couple of days or weeks? And why, after so many failed attempts to attract Mr. Right, you still just don’t have him; you still don’t, can’t, won’t understand why ‘love’ and Mr. Right continue to elude you. You may say, I’m ready and I’m waiting for the right man to come along so that we can fall in love, set up house, and sail off into the romantic sunset of domestic bliss. But the reality is that you are literally sabotaging any potential relationship, and you have no clue how you are doing it. “What am I doing wrong?” or “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why are men so fake?” are just a couple of the questions I hear when discussing failed relationships. You may not want to hear this but you may be your relationships’ worst enemy; you may think you’re ready for a solid meaningful relationship but you’re not. You are totally unprepared for relationship and that’s why they fail. Yes, you have to prepare yourself for relationship. Surprised? Yes, you sure are! And you might be even more surprised to learn that I have identified a number of surefire ways to stymie any hope of nurturing a new relationship and growing it into a meaningful commitment. Let’s look at a couple of biggies. You discard the opportunity before you fully explore it. So you meet someone on social media or in some other meetup, and that someone approaches you and wants to continue the conversation; he may ask to get to know you in a chat. How many times have you simply dropped the ball and closed the door in his face. How often have you asked that useless, idiotic question, “How old are you,” or by asking for a photo in the first lines of a chat? You shown your shallowness and superficiality. By the end of the chat, you will have found every idiotic excuse why the relationship — or any relationship —, is ruled out. You think you’re just not interested or not in the mood. He’s not good enough. But are YOU? You don’t even give it a chance, less of a chance than an ice cube in hell, and before you know it, you’ve alienated him. You need to cultivate interest if you are to have a chance at relationship; when I talk about nurturing a new contact I mean you have to genuinely show that you care about him, selflessly, treat him like a seedling that needs to be tended to, watered and fed like anything else in order to grow. Even if you’re not into chat or discovery through email, why not give it a go anyway, and at least make a new friend? Just like in a face-to-face physical meetup, you don’t have to dive right into something initially romantic or intimate — too much too fast and too soon is a common killer —, there’s bound to be something to pique your interest and hold your attention; if not, which is very rare, you can always call a time-out, and cut the interaction short if you absolutely must. You can tell a lot about him by treating him with respect and interest, later by observing his reactions and responses in the many types of settings that will arise. Lasting impressions frequently change after first impressions. You insist on staying in your personal comfort zone. You may be seriously limiting yourself and your relationship opportunities if you insist on staying in your personal comfort zone, whether that be in terms of age group, personal, usually limited interests, proximity and location, belief or spiritual traditions, etc. Too many men seem to gravitate towards the routine, familiar, and safe like, for example, the same groups, clubs, places, etc., and that can become a serious obstacle to finding relationship candidates; leaving the nest of familiarity and the fact of having been taken for granted will open the gates to a great deal of self-discovery and new possibilities. Try something new. Do you enjoy hiking? Ha! You probably don’t even know. Have you ever even hiked at all? Well, find a group and go hiking! Do you want to learn more about spirituality and how it is a foundation for self-awakening and exploration and discovery of another man? Join Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ and sign up for a program like Mascul-IN-Touch℠  or Mascul-IN-Timacy℠. Let what you are seeking find you naturally and effortlessly; you’ll meet other interesting men without having to be introduced or spend your free time surfing the net or in clubs, or worse, becoming addicted to social media. There’s a saying that teaches that stepping outside of our protective circles makes them broader and fuller of potential; every new relationship is a discovery and the start of new experiences, learning, and meaning. Finding the Beloved is a journey you have to travel alone. If you are constantly in the company of safe friends and acquaintances, you may appear to be a herd animal to an observer. Moreover, if you are constantly chattering in a group, a potential relationship may not be so extravert to feel comfortable crashing your fake party. Opportunity lost. Social media tends to be one-on-one, and escape is easier if you are faint of heart, but you’ll never capture anyone’s interest if you’re never alone, available, and accessible. Go to happy hour alone once in a while. Strike up an impromptu conversation with someone or welcome an attempt by someone to start a conversation, and participate in it. Be accessible and be interesting. Thinking of a vacation? If you go with your family or a group of friends, accept the fact that your options are severely limited; admittedly traveling alone may feel uncomfortable at first, but if you are accessible, you won’t be alone for long. 90% of everyone else on the cruise or tour is there for the same reasons as you are: to get away from family, friends, co-workers, routine, the familiar and the safe, and to meet new people and make new experiences. Profit by the opportunities. I’m not suggesting that you throw all caution to the winds, but it can be very empowering to navigate the unexpected waters of traveling on your own. It will force you to be social and puts you in charge of your own adventures. Rest and relaxation are nice but after a couple of days of rest and relaxation, anyone alive will begin to crave human interaction and social activity. Sightseeing, going on an excursion, or just going on a discovery daytrip with a group of intrepid travelers is a good way to start the conversation. You don’t have to go on a cruise to meet new people. There are plenty of meetups where you can mingle with people with any variety of interests right in your own area. All you have to do is look around. Is your job a major obstacle to your personal life?  Too many men work too much; sometimes 60 to 70 hours a week.  That’s not dedication, it’s addiction, and it’s inhuman and leaves no room for recreation or relationship. Besides, if you ‘love’ your job that much and think your work is fun, you may need therapy or another job. If a job leaves little time for anything else, including finding a romantic relationship, you really need to re-assess your situation. One fact remains true: it is highly unlikely that you will find a partner or relationship at your desk or staring into your electronic device or at your computer screen. You are constantly too busy looking for a partner or a relationship, and missing it when it’s there. The mystic poet Rūmī had it right when he advised, “what you are seeking is seeking you.” If you are personally, emotionally, and spiritually prepared, you will be confident that what you are looking for will find you, and this is particularly true when it comes to relationship and commitment. First of all, you have to prepare yourself, so when the expected guest arrives, he has a pleasant place to stay. You must also be able to focus and be aware and mindful in order to counteract the harmful effects of the bad habit of being too obviously looking but not seeing. You can avoid a lot of unpleasantness and suffering if you simply give your daily experiences — including the extraordinary ones — the single-minded attention they deserve. Your sense of urgency can get the best of you when you meet interesting new people in any setting. You may unconsciously be telegraphing everything going on in your mind, and giving away that you are not focused on what is immediately in front of you. Wandering eyes and mind signal superficiality and shallowness. Thinking throughout the conversation, “Is he single? Is that a wedding ring I see?” distracts from the moment; being in the moment, being mindful while being aware keeps you on course and allows the relationship potential to unfold without unnecessary distractions tripping things up. Real relationship cannot be forced; very often true engagement happens when you stop looking so desperately for it. You’re looking for love in the wrong places. Generally, if you’re looking in the wrong places, the chances are very high that you’ll find the wrong people. Serious, committed, focused people; that is, people for whom you should be looking, are not in the gym to find love, they’re there to work out. You may think that you’re chances will be good by going to a party or a bar. Sure, your chances may be pretty good for a hook up but admit it, most of the other people there are there for the same misguided reason. Or worse still, they’re not interested in relationship, just in a quicky or a one-nighter. Puts a damper on any realistic expectations, doesn’t it? Grounded men love to walk the dog in the park or browse the library or gallery. A potential partner may be sitting right next to you on the train reading a book, or he likes to shop at Trader Joe’s, presenting you with a valuable opening. He might be next door to your mom’s, alone on a ladder cleaning gutters, another opening.  Love might be in line in front of you ordering at Starbuck’s; tall latte, just what you like, too. Share a table. True relationship frequently hides in plain sight, and often surfaces where and when you least expect it. I really don’t dance but I fuck like a bunny. So you just sit there and think how bored you are. Real interesting, right? They’re just lining up to get on your nonexistent dance card. Right. So you just sit there or stand there leaning on the bar and wait, and wait, until last call. And then you go home. Alone. You’re self-defeating strategy is to hide out in the open. Unfortunately, it’s working. I have found that some of the best encounters happen on the dance floor where body language, facial expressions (particularly smiles), and having fun set the mood rather than hesitant, furtive conversations, or trying too hard to look mysteriously interesting. Get up and dance, with or without a partner; let your hips do the talking; your booty doesn’t lie. The great dancer-choreographer Martha Graham once said, “Dance is the hidden language of the soul of the body.” Let your soul do the talking. In Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ I teach that the mūlādhāra (मूलाधार) cakra situated in the pelvic floor is the grounding center and reservoir of the  subtle energies, including those associated with pleasure, sensuality, and joy. You learn to exercise, tone, and exploit the powers of the pelvis in Mascul-IN-Touch℠, and in Mascul-IN-Timacy℠, you use those skills with your Tāntric Lover in homoerotic rituals and practices, involving awareness, arousal, stimulation, and sacred touch and dance. Most men expect instant connection; long-term relationship straight out of the box. No reasonable man would admit that that is a realistic expectation but they still believe it will happen! Some couples say that for them, it was love at first sight. Rubbish! They can look at you straight-faced and say it without blinking because they’re in authentic relationship now, and they forgot about all the work that went into it. The truth is, love never happens instantly; infatuation does but not love. The dating services and the movie industry want us to believe in instant love, connection magic, happy ever after, etc. and while those are sweet fantasies and sell romantic movies and soppy novels, it’s not exactly reality. Connection takes a bit of work and a lot of TLC maintenance, so it’s important to move slowly forward and let the flavors and fragrances of reciprocal attraction and resonance blend together naturally and safely. Why do men overlook shared grounding and go straight for the prize, prematurely? His holiness the Dalai Lama makes a powerful statement that relates well to this topic: “Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries, without them humanity cannot survive.” Unfortunately, western cultural conditioning, stereotypes, and social scripts do not provide a man with the wherewithal or the resources for connection with other men in deeper places or experiences that nourish the masculine soul. Authentic relationship, engagement, commitment, surrender should come to us via shared acts of compassion; compassion is acting for the good of another. Your intrinsic and inherent masculine goodness is what naturally drives your conscience and your actions, unless society sets obstacles. How do you want to be involved with others? What are your feelings towards other creatures? Do you respond to an urge to help, teach, defend others? Or are you a slave to social or political agendas or partisan policy? Are you a man who feels called to a simpler life, to practicing noble personal and social ethics and values? Or do you spend your Saturdays on the couch eating junk food and guzzling beer, watching others taking action on Netflix or some porn channel. Authentic relationship can frequently be found in places and opportunities where sensitivity and compassion can find expression. Is it true that men are in relationship only for the sex. Well, I really have to admit that a large majority of men are purely and simply, well, not much more than dogs. I say that with a twinge of guilt because I am a dog lover, and I think that a man can learn a hell of a lot about commitment and dedication simply be being with a canine companion. But there is a misguided popular cliché that dogs don’t discriminate and are kind of, well, sleezy. Maybe all dogs aren’t that way but we do know many men are. Cultural conditioning, stereotypes, and social scripts have enabled men to become cliché parodies of masculinity and maleness, and most men do nothing to improve their image. A man is encouraged to try to impress other men in the pack that he has reproductive prowess, a bigger dick, more cum, and more staying power that others should envy. After all, men don’t have emotions or if they do, they shouldn’t show them. Men have to be strong and never show any effeminate gentleness or cooperation. Men have to be aggressive and competitive. Right? Wrong! All that’s downright and fundamentally wrong! It’s toxic cultural conditioning at work doing its worst! Sure, as human beings we want to satisfy our physical needs and urges, and we frequently look for ways of feeling good without the hassle of love or commitments. I think that’s one of the problems, one of the obstacles that prevents a man from surrendering to relationship. It’s no secret that when most homoerotic men start seeking, the whole experience starts out with physical attraction and sex; if the sex is good, maybe, just maybe he’ll look a bit deeper into the possibilities. But really, how often does that happen? The typical man thinks sex first, and maybe he’ll think about love later. But the tragic effect of instant gratification, one night stands, and restroom hand-jobs is instant objectification; the partner loses all humanity and becomes an object. Can you really love an object? The unfortunate answer might be Yes but that’s the wrong answer. It may seem like last year’s holiday fruitcake but it does appear that waiting to have sex is quite often the key to a lasting connection. When a man learns to be aware of and to respect the process of his physical urges and drives, his emotions and feelings, and when discerns what he is seeking, why, and what he values and wants, he can practice restraint and allow his urges, desires, and longings to settle and balance out rather than to build up uncontolledly to explosive dimensions. Eros, not sex, becomes a constructive creative element of the integrated story. Instant gratification, objectification of another man, and unawareness of one’s self is like picking up a great book, reading the first couple of pages, and skipping ahead several chapters to get to the final chapter; that approach will ruin even the best book plot. When you become aware of yourself and who and what you are, you put yourself in a more favorable position to stop self-defeating behaviors that hijack your efforts and your relationships. Rūmī had it perfectly right, “what you seek is seeking you,” turn on the porch lights and what you most long for just might come knocking on your door. Slow down, you move too fast. You got to make the morning last. Just kicking down the cobble stones. Looking for fun and feelin’ groovy. (Simon & Garfunkel – The 59th Street Bridge Song (Feelin’ Groovy))

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Notes:

[1] Believe it or not, Sanskrit has more than 90 words for the English word ‘love.’ Here are just a couple of examples to show how Sanskrit distinguishes this ephemeral emotion:

• स्नेह (Sneha): Love characterized by affection, kindness, tenderness; ex. maternal love for a child.
• काम (Kama): Love characterized by erotic or physical desire; ex. the instructions in the Kama Sutra.
• अनुरक्ति (Anurakti): Love characterized by passion or attachment.
• रति (Rati): Love characterized by physical, sexual delight, pleasure, or desire. (This word originally meant to enjoy or delight in something or someone).
• प्रिय (Priya): Love characterized by fondness, devotion, attachment.
• भक्ति (Bhakti): Love characterized by worship, faithfulness, loyalty.

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If it is bread that you seek, you will have bread, If it is the soul you seek, you will find the soul. If you understand this secret, you know you are that which you seek. – Rūmī

Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. – Rūmī

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Spiritual traditions suggest that our desires are co-created by a transcendent power. Eight centuries ago, the beloved Sufi scholar and poet Jalaluddin Rūmī[2] penned a poem containing a line that still resonates with readers across the globe today. He is said to have given us the axiom, “What you seek is seeking you.” How is it that a Persian poet-mystic said it best eight hundred years ago when he wrote that perennial māntra? When a man conducts himself according to this māntra, he surrenders to the belief that he’s not alone seeking fulfillment of his own desires or his individual destiny, that fulfillment is seeking him as well. In metaphysical terms, you wouldn’t have a longing or a desire in the first place if some higher power hadn’t inspired it or located it within you. What Rūmī is restating very concisely is a very ancient and undisputable law of the universe, something that self-help junkies have mistaken for what we have come to know as the Law of Attraction, a popular movement that gets a lot of undeserved attention these days. I abbreviate it “LA” suggesting the abbreviation for Los Angeles, California, one of the capitals of plastic personalities and the haven of myriad fake guru-s; Law of Attraction became widely discussed when the book,  The Secret, was published back in 2006.[3] But Rūmī is far from being the father of popular New Age law of attraction. Despite the shallowness and narcissism of the Byrnian Law of Attraction, which has become one of those social media–smart phone-age perversions — the basic concept has been around for centuries, even millennia, however. Throughout human history, all cultures have conceived of the notion that that cosmic and universal natural laws; that is, transcendent powers, could be drawn upon to manifest desires and longings, and to attain some form of satisfaction or fulfillment, whether it meant to realize and attain the desired object or to liberate one’s self from the desire or illusion itself. The underlying mystic principle is that a human being, consciously or unconsciously, attracts events into his life through his energies and vibrational frequencies and resonances. Einstein and Tesla hinted at this in modern scientific ways but when Rūmī wrote the line “what you seek is seeking you,” he was referring to the attraction that occurs between people and objects whose frequencies match — a.k.a. a fundamental law of energetic or vibrational attraction, sometimes referred to as ‘entrainment’ — or, as we might say, they resonate with each other. The question that the man steeped in western tradition and conditioning, living out western stereotypes of masculinity, and social scripts asks is: “How do I cultivate this kind of trust, surrender to this guidance?” In this article, I’d like to propose a few ideas to help any man surrender to higher guidance in his life according to this māntra, “What you seek is seeking you.”

Establish a regimen of daily reflection and meditation

Once we start “going to the mat” (practicing reflection and meditation regularly), we stop being under the illusion that our happiness lies in the lap of some external power or person that controls any goal, desire, or longing from attaining fruition or satisfaction. With a regular routine of self-reflection and meditation, you learn to access your ānanda (आनन्द) or fulfillment on a higher level day by day, until it becomes your very nature. When this happens your desires become more fulfillable because their fulfillment becomes natural; in other words, you use your self-awareness and self-knowledge as a way of discerning true fulfillment; your awareness beomes a fulfillment delivery vehicle. Once you start meditating, you develop an unparalleled access to awareness and fulfillment in the only place you will really find it: within yourself. Self-focused reflection on who you are, what you are becoming, and what you really want. Self-reflection, in contrast with meditation, is looking within. When you practice self-reflection, you develop the healthy habit of returning to yourself, which not only enhances your external relations but also your internal relations, which are fine tuned daily through your reflection and meditation practice. One of the first questions you have to ask yourself is “What do I want?” Follow that question with “Why do I want it?” and a third question — assuming you have a good reason for wanting it — might be “How can I get it?” Naturally, you won’t be able to answer such questions honestly until you can answer the question, “Who am I?” This is where focus and concentration skills come into play. You see, as long as you hand over control of your thoughts and, when they go to your ego or to some controller outside yourself, you hand over control of your reflection process, which then is no longer yours; the controllers own you. Furthermore, reflection on these questions should not become work or goal-oriented; the process should remain playful, fun, enjoyable, uplifting. After all, you are becoming acquainted with the real you, instead of the stranger you see every day in the mirror. You are slowly becoming more recognizable to yourself and to your Self. Try to stay in the realm of desire and longing, reminding yourself that what you seek is also seeking you. Your inmost desire and longing is to be comfortable, truly comfortable with where you are in this moment. Nothing else matters.

Take purposeful and meaningful action; set an intention.

Most people these days just sit and text and sit and chat and sit and wait. Something in them tells them that if you sit and wait, something is bound to happen. It does; you get lonely and bitter. Your dreams don’t materialize when you just sit and wait! You have to take some sort of  action that is purposeful, meaningful, and self-relevant; intentional action. I’m here to guide you to that kind of action. Your happiness does not depend on a job, a boyfriend, or anything other than you. Your bliss already is there for you but you have to mine it; it’s there right now within you; job, boyfriend, relationships, wealth have value only if you are fulfilled. This is a perfect paradox: the more self-aware and self-reflective you become by focusing on your Self, your inner sanctuary, the easier it is for your desires, longings, and Beloved to find you because you are precisely where your truest desires expect to find you. This is probably so, because once you stop obsessing over every interaction or event or perception, you can stop panicking and running around aimlessly, to stop long enough to recognize your desires and opportunities when they appear to you. Knock, knock![4] Before I move on in this discussion, let me ask you to ask yourself, “What do I think is seeking me? Next step is to reflect on the difference between that question and “What do I think I am seeking?”

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For many of my readers, the Rūmī quote reflects a deep understanding of a the law of attraction; that is, the teaching that your thoughts and intentions draw good or bad things your way, but that modern interpretation is too self-fulfilling, too simplistic, and it doesn’t really capture the real meaning. It has no breadth or depth. Well, Rūmī didn’t write in English, so we’re saddled with a translation and all translations are suspect. “What you seek is seeking you” is an English rendering of the original Persian text but there’s a slightly different translation of the line as it reads in Persian, where the meaning is more along the lines of ‘What you seek is with you.’ In Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ we would say something very close to that: “What you seek is within you.” Seems we’re getting closer. My two alternatives emphasize that what you’re seeking is closer than you may realize. In fact, it may well be your constant companion without you being aware of it, which is usually the case. We have to start with knowing the seeker, who he truly is, and this requires self-awareness. In Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ as in the Sufi mystic tradition, finding what you desire, what you are longing for, seeking begins with knowing yourself through self-reflection and self-awareness. Each of us longs to know himself. He longs not just to be finely aware of his own thoughts, emotions, perceptions, feelings, interactions, strengths, and limitations but another part of himself, the ineffable part, the eternal part, the Self, that part of him that is connected to the Source of all existence. Anything, everything you want is there. Self-awareness is not the same as self-knowledge; attaining self-awareness is one thing, self-knowledge takes a bit more work, and self-realization is the real kicker. It all takes work, commitment, and humility, and the fruits don’t come overnight. This makes it easy for most people to avoid ever getting close to self-awareness, much less self-knowledge and self-realization, because they find it an impossible task to make the time to turn the focus inward — besides, most men are afraid of what they might find there. There’s always work, family, friends, and social media demands to distract them. But focusing inward may be the key to finding what you seek, at least in the beginning. I admit that much of what a man seeks on a day-to-day basis is related to the basic necessities of survival. But when things like shelter, food, and security have been met, second level desires can be considered such as career, relationships, better health, and social life, recreational interests. Somewhere between the first level necessities and the second level desires we find the esoteric, metaphysical longings, let’s call them spiritual longings. These longings are often related to deeper needs, such as:

• a sense of meaning and purpose
• self-actualization or self-realization, or the fulfillment of one’s true potential
• direction, or a path to attainment of bliss, true joy
• a sense of belonging, relationship, connection, with yourself, others, and with a deeper source

Perhaps it would be more accurate to describe these as ‘bridge’ or ‘transitional’ longings because they empower or energize seeker to transition from the 1^st level to the the 2^nd level desires and longings. The lamp is a common metaphor used in many mystic and spiritual teaching traditions. Some seekers may be more concerned with the physics of how the lamp works, how it functions. Is it working efficiently? Is the wiring safe? Does the design fit the room? But we, as practitioners of the philosophy, spirituality, and science of yogic Tantra, are more concerned with whether the lamp is plugged into a reliable power source.[5] Now we are faced with the question of how do we connect to an inner, reliable power source? And once we’re plugged in, how do we develop the self-awareness and self-knowledge we need in order to find what we’re really seeking? In other words, it is a question of how we use the reliable power source to power the lamp that lights the path to fulfillment; it’s the same lamp that serves as the beacon guiding the desired, the longed for object to your heart, where it will find you. Again, I cannot overemphasize that you must have solid grounding in personal and social ethics; you have to be able to effectively discern what is going on around you; I mean you must be able to separate the gems from the junk. Through self-reflection, meditation, self-awareness, and practicing the yogic yama-s (यम) and niyama-s (नियम) you will be able to liberate yourself from the fetters of toxic cultural conditioning, harmful stereotypes, and social scripts that imprison your Divine Masculine Spirit and stifle the inner voice.[6] You’ll be reachable and accessible. How can you say you want love when you don’t know how to commit to even the most accessible love, self-love? How can you say you want love when you keep setting booby traps for yourself that prevent what is seeking you from finding and engaging you? How can you say you want to love and be loved if all you can do is look at the superficial, without seeing the Divine in the Other? Well, how? Most spiritual traditions, particularly Yoga (योग) and Tantra (तन्त्र) have no problem describing a clear method and sequence to clear the way for the mystical marriage of two Divine Masculine Spirits, such as: Reflection and Meditation There are many, many methods taught for reflection and for meditation practice, and all reflection/meditation becomes personal method over time. For our basic purpose here, let’s just say that meditation is a practice of intentionally quieting your mind, bracketing the outside world, and focusing consciousness. Depending on the type of reflection/meditation you practice, you might be:

• Sitting meditation or meditation in a specific posture called an āsana (आसन).
• Breath focused meditation, called prāṇāyāma (प्राणायाम)
• Sequence meditation, moving through a set of steps or movements
• Māntra (मन्त्र) meditation by reciting a māntra or sacred word
• Nyasa (न्यास),  bandha (बन्ध), mudra (मुद्र) meditation, touching, tightening and relaxing parts of the body
• Engaging in ‘prayer’
• Reflection on blessings or boons received
• Visualizing
• Focusing on the Inner Voice

There is scientific proof that reflection and meditation enhance one’s ability to perceive and acknowledge what is happening within the body; this is called interoception.[7] Reflection and meditation also allows you to “witness” your experiences, perceptions, emotions, attitudes, and thoughts. When you develop these skills, you have the power to actually transform your perception of your Self. A particularly effective basic meditation method might use movement, deep breathing, and guided imagery or visualization to help the practitioner focus and concentrate on his physical heart, for example. Let go of any perceived limitations, illusions, addictions/attachments Thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, patterns, habits, attachments, etc. are just some of the obstacles that prevent you  from finding what you seek. Learn to identify the obstacles, once you identify them, you name them, and once you name them you have power over them. It is unwise to attempt to suppress them or to ignore them; rather, learn to use the energy you have invested in them to nurture more positive pursuits. Discernment[8] is not easy, particularly when a man has to be both in the world and of it. If we were all monks living in a closed and orderly community, the task would be far easier. But we’re not monks; we live in a wide world full of paradox, contradictions, diversity, illusions, distractions, attractions, all food for monkey-mind and all with the sole purpose of eating us alive. Being in the world makes discernment very difficult, particularly when a man lacks focusing skills that would allow him to be single-pointed, and thus single-minded, when necessary, which means always and constantly. You may not be able to do it alone. It may be helpful for you to work with a mentor; if so, you will want to work with a mentor who affirms your spirituality, even if he doesn’t share your own belief or philosophical tradition or orientations. If he practices non-judgment and unconditional acceptance, he is the right choice. If he tries to indoctrinate you, convert you, or push you in a direction in which you are uncomfortable, run away![9] Don’t curse the darkness, light a candle; find a mentor Most men feel that it is important, even essential to find a mentor who can provide guidance that is spiritually affirming, and who can support them in their spiritual challenges. I agree. No mentor should try to change you; rather, he should provide you with the wiggle room to make your own decisions, follow his gentle guidance, and transform at your own pace. When psychospiritual guidance is spiritually adapted, that is, when it integrates spiritual values, psychospiritual distress is reduced, and spiritual well-being increases in men receiving such guidance. Keep in mind also that a mentor’s value is not only in his spiritual guidance skills but he’s also able to become a valuable asset when you are coping with physical and emotional challenges. He doesn’t do this by providing you with answers but by guiding you to find your own answers, which then become yours; you own your solutions, in other words. Once a seeker recognizes whatever it is he desires or is longing for, he must enter into dialogue with his mentor; his mentor is a guide and companion on his quest. A popular saying among authentic spiritual mentors its: “There are many guru-s but few disciples.” This is very true everywhere, and this is where the Rūmī quote applies with particular relevance. Avoid any so-called teacher who has to push his program or any teacher who claims to be right for you, or offers a one-size-fits-all program. You may be seeking a mentor but be patient, he will find you. That’s how it works. You will know because what he has to say will resonate deeply within you, and you will feel a sense of sync; you will be in ‘entrainment’ with him. The mentor should be a man, who has already achieved “it” and listens to what he’s learned. Listen and reflect on what he has to say, even if you disagree, even if he says nothing. An authentic mentor’s silence also speaks volumes; his silence means that he is deeply listening to your words and to your own silences, and to voices, to which you may not yet be attuned. His guidance as a teacher or mentor will have a profound effect on your attainments. The authentic mentor will have many of the following traits:

• He will be mature and have lived experience.
• He will be able to appropriately communicate and share his relevant expertise in ways that resonate with the seeker, his disciple.
• He will lead by example, generally as a servant leader.
• He will radiate authenticity and integrity.
• He will selflessly devote time and energy to the mentoring process.
• He will create growth opportunities in his disciple.
• He will urge experimentation and imagination in the disciple.
• He will provide honest feedback.
• He will be aware of and sensitive to the beloved disciple’s strengths and challenges.
• He will be in a loving relationship with the disciple.
• He will inspire his disciple to feel safe and ready to accept healthy vulnerability and surrender.

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It’s best to avoid any extracurricular reading in the subject matter until you have been thoroughly initiated into the Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ system, and have completed at least the solo-cultivation Mascul-IN-Touch℠ program cycle. Dāka (दाक) has spent a lot of time preparing your study materials and your practice and exercise modules; you will have little time for other reading. The world is drowning in so-called self-help books written and marketed by fake guru-s and gobbled up by ignorant consumers seeking instant gratification and confirmation of their own misguided patterns. Avoid them at all costs. By reading such self-help books I have been able to identify the fools of the world. I am an avid reader and feel that reading and study is an essential part of a man’s evolution to realization but by reading books by people who claim to have been on the path, a seeker does not find the wisdom that a trusted personal teacher or mentor provides. While books may inspire and motivate, and broaden your perspective, they generally describe one person’s path through the eyes of that one person. Only after you have attained a degree of competence in spiritual discernment will you be able to separate the gems from the junk you may read. Only an authentic mentor can guide you to attaining such powers of discernment. If your mentor assigns readings for you, those readings are right for you. It is important that you make your own experiences; don’t rely on the experience of others to guide you, unless they’re your mentor’s, and even then question. I hinted at this when I spoke of books and reading, particularly books like Byrne’s The Secret — which was never a secret for at least 5000 years —, introducing the New Age law of attraction, and discussed briefly above. Many of today’s problems as experienced by the seeker are because the seeker is living vicariously through others’ experiences, and attempting to live those experiences in his own particular context. This simply does not work; the situations are far too complex. The only way a seeker can expect to reach his goal is to follow his inner voice with the guidance of an authentic mentor, not with the guidance of a social media contact or a Facebook friend or a self-help book. Your life and path is not a lab experiment where you have a hypothesis, and you try to test it, making observations that confirm your idea, and then believing it is true and real, you attempt to apply it and then fail. It may very well be true and real but it may also be an illusion, or worse. It’s inadvisable to accept any external proposition as is; you must be able to discern its truth and reality for you, you may then attempt to apply it, adopt it, and even own it. The take-home message is that what you are seeking is seeking you. “What you seek is seeking you” can be interpreted in many ways. Looking at this poetic line through the lens of Sufism, Rūmī’s faith tradition, reveals that its meaning may be closer to the phrase, “Everything you seek is already within you.” But that’s a core principle of traditional Yoga (योग) and Tantra (तन्त्र), and is the starting point for every seeker following Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ and practicing the Mascul-IN-Touch℠ system. The path to finding what your heart-mind desires can begin with understanding who you are — beyond your experiences, your diagnoses, and your physical body. It’s a journey where each step is accompanied by a perception, an experience, a narrative. You are empowered by a Divine power grid, think of it as GPS, god’s power system, that provides reliable power to the lamp that radiates the light of enlightenment and true liberation. You can try to look inward through reflection and meditation, change the patterns that have held you back, and learn from those around you — and find what works for you. Spirituality is a beautiful thing, and it is liberating; a man turns to spirituality when he’s struggling, and it’s in spirituality that he finds a deeper meaning. If something in this article resonates with you, seek it more deeply. [1] “Godwink (pl. godwinks) is an occurrence, event or, personal experience, often called coincidence or attributed to some metaphysical force, so astonishing that it is seen as a sign of divine intervention, especially when perceived as the answer to a quest, a deep desire, a wish, or even a prayer. American author S. Rushnell is credited with coining the term in a 2006 book, Divine Alignment. While I do like some of the neologisms, I do recommend healthy skepticism when reading such books. [2] Jalāl al-Dīn Muḥammad Rūmī, popularly known simply as Rūmī (30 September 1207 – 17 December 1273), was a 13th-century Persian mystic poet, scholar, theologian and Sufi mystic  Rūmī’s influence transcends national borders and ethnic divisions and the world has greatly appreciated his spiritual legacy for the past seven centuries. His poems have been translated into most of the world’s languages and transposed into various traditions. Rūmī has been described as the one of world literature’s most popular poets and the most quoted poet in the United States, and probably worldwide [3] Byrne, Rhonda. The Secret. Atria books / Beyond Words hardcover ed. Atria Books; Beyond Words 2018. Byrne’s book introducing the “law of attraction” scam, was launched in the thick of the social media/smart phone age, and it preaches a troubling narcissism and pitches an “I’m the center of the universe” angle that simply restates the misguided ideas of previous so-called self-help pundits. While the previous books may be read to offer well-meant or even reasonable advice for their times and ecologies, The Secret is bloated with disordered clichés, moronic quotes, and superstitious twaddle. It’s one of those insidiously harmful social scripts in a play promoting entitlement and self-absorption; anyone who attempts to implement such advice in real life or takes it seriously as a panacea for life’s challenges is on a path to self harm over the longer term. (See also, The Staggering Bullshit of “The Secret”.) [4] I caution you not to make the mistake of thinking I am talking about me-enhancement, the entitlement generation, iGen or anything similar. This discussion is not about self-enhancement but about self-awareness, and seeks to affirm the concept of union and unity embodied in yogic and tāntric science and philosophy. [5] Of course, the ancient sages didn’t have electrical lamps but they did have oil lamps, and the metaphor is still applicable, making the necessary alterations, of course. [6] The yama-s and niyama-s are the personal and social ethical principles of traditional aṣṭāṅgayoga (अष्टाङ्गयोग) or 8-limbed yoga. The eight limbs are are structured system in which the personal and social ethical principles form the basis for the rest of the system; in Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ I teach them as self-standing principles fundamental to the Warrior virtue system. [7] Now would be a good time to distinguish between reflection and meditation as I am using the terms in this essay. In reflection, the purpose is to engage the mind. Unlike meditation where the purpose is to turn off or dim our thoughts, let go of monkey-mind, in reflection you activate and engage the thinking process. You actively focus and think about something in particular — a goal, challenge, situation, decision, or simply information that you’ve acquired. There is also a distinction between practice of meditation and practice of reflection within the domain of zen mindfulness. Mindfulness meditation practice helps you to develop concentration and stillness, which allows you to penetrate into a deeper understanding of the nature of reality. Reflection practice gives you insight into your own mind processes. It allows you to understand how you function and provides you with insight into our strengths and weaknesses. It helps you to effectively and meaningfully analyze ourselves and others. When you reflect on your thoughts and perceptions, or on your life, you approach a higher level of self-awareness. Meditation, on the other hand, has the capability of rewiring the brain so that some neural connections are moderated, while new connections more efficacious ones are created. You see yourself and others from a different perspective. Overall anxiety is reduced, and your capacity to harmonize and empathize is enhanced. Rather than taking every stimulus and perception personally, you become more balanced and rational in your interpretations and responses. [8] In yogic tāntric terms, discernment is what we call viveka (विवेक), a process of moving beyond raw perceptions (what you think you know) to more refined non-judgmental interpretation of those perceptions (what they really are); in other words discernment leads you to distinguish between the real and the unreal, truth from untruth, reality from illusion, and enables you to separate the gems from the junk. [9] All change and transformation is accompanied by some degree of discomfort or unease but when I say “uncomfortable” I mean inwardly uncomfortable; something deep within you is telling you that something is not right.

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Don’t you think it’s time to change direction in your life? You don’t want to spend your life as a stereotype, a cipher, or a cast member acting out the script of a third rate play, do you? Well, at some time in the Orientation Period, I have to ask the men who contact me seeking admission in the Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ programs: “Are you a meat puppet of toxic cultural conditioning, living out a stereotype of masculinity, and doing everything according to the social script you’ve been handed. Or are you the incarnation of a Divine Masculine Warrior-Hero Spirit with the task of playfully creating a world in which men can become physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy, whole, responsible, and unfettered, and who can live full, rounded, satisfying lives that are not just good for themselves but good for the others around them?” It’s a very complex question, I know, but if you are of the Warrior Order, the Kṣatriyatā (क्षत्रियता), you know, you feel, you intuit exactly what it means. When I first heard talk about the gender politics and gender ideologies behind the LGBTQ and the “trans” movements, I didn’t turn my back on it and join the cancel-culture mob promoting it on censorial social media nor the majority labeling it as crazy perverse, I faced it head on and said, “Tell me more!” What I heard was not persuasive, much less compelling, and the word that came up was not weird but hypocrisy. Surprisingly, I did not find the hypocrisy on the part of the majority of homoerotic persons who cultivate the freedom for same-gender/same-sex sensual relationships but in the representations and the propaganda message of the LGBTQ and trans movements that tend to punish those asking them to “tell me more,” rather than enter into reciprocally informative dialogue. Oh, the affectations of the mob! I wonder what would have become of me and my programs had I assumed that sort of stance vis-à-vis men who questioned the value of Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠, and why it was so important for them to become healthily countercultural and shed the fetters of toxic cultural conditioning and stereotypes. But then, I didn’t have Silicon Valley woke culture support of programs that promote freedom of the masculine spirit and healthy masculinity — their agenda’s purpose resides in destroying the uniqueness of masculinity and blurring the sacred meaning of maleness —, nor did the social media Community Standards Police, the censors of free expression, appreciate my celebration of the male Beloved nor my rejection of objectifying men by the narcissist–exhibitionists posting their soft and hard porn on social media to the delight of the voyeur community or their closeted consumers. Rather, I stand amazed, even saddened, that so many ordinary, low-self-esteem men continue to be enthralled by images of sociopathic, narcissistic muscled men who flaunt themselves promiscuously, and frequently sell “fans only” subscriptions for as little as $5 to “see more”, oblivious to the potential to literally ruin their lives. But even worse still, by posing in their jockstraps and g-strings or pushing their bare asses to fill the entire frame, they are not only objectifying themselves but degrading the whole of manhood. Their stupid displays are exactly the male version of the sexual exploitation women have been complaining of for generations. Those men who enjoy looking at such exhibitionist-narcissists are equally guilty and have their own perversion, voyeurism. The real damage is just postponed, when you think of the frustration and depression they will experience, once the 30s, and midlife hit them head on, and they have to leave the gym to pursue life in the real world and a dead-end job, if they can even land one. Realize one fact: once it’s on the Internet it’s there for everyone and forever. But they’re not aware of that; they’re not aware of anything. Maybe I am suffering a sort of ‘survivor’s guilt’[1] when I survey the posts and the images of suffering men, including those muscled ‘studs,’ who, yes, are also suffering; they’re suffering in ways different from the ways, in which the ordinary man suffers; the exhibitionists are lonely and have no real identity, and so they bare themselves hoping to be able to market the only thing they consider valuable, something impermanent, something that vanishes quickly over a very short time, but they still want to be received, accepted, wanted, which they achieve but in the worst, wrong ways.   Identity in the 21^st century has become a ‘hot-button issue,’ a neo-religion, but why is it fueled by illusion, dystopia, dysphoria, anger, mobbing, and vitriol? Why so negative? Why has individual reality taken precedence over bedrock issues, and why is there the linguistic battle dominated by the language of Silicon Valley, a language which makes it near impossible for anyone to say what he has to say without fear of suspension, blocking, cancelation, or mob violence? The culture of be this or else. It’s incredibly one-sided. There is a thinly disguised Marxism in our midst that dictates that power rules, and that human beings in their nature of infinite malleability can, should, and must be molded in the view of whomever holds the utopian or dystopian controls, those with the power. Cower now, submit, or vanish. The very fact that identity politics[3] is so paradoxically unidentifiable that it has to provide a unique identity for practically any and every human being who is dissatisfied with his identity —let’s call it identity dysphoria —, including his own biology, should convince anyone that the world is locked into developmental stage that froze at the level of a 2-year old, a developmental stage in which identity is highly fluid, a stage where language is stalled at the exclamation ‘No!’ as an affirmation of an uncertain sense of autonomy, and the temper tantrum is the most effective weapon, not because it actually works, but because it is so annoying, so frightening to anyone witnessing it. Now imagine half the human race behaving like a two-year old, and the other half standing by, terrified by the loss of self-control they are witnessing. Be afraid, be very afraid. Two-year olds like to play games, games like house, mommy and daddy, doctor, and similar role playing, but for the two-year old there’s fluidity, the boy can alternate between daddy and mommy when it suits him. Fast forward 20 years to the now 22-year old who still wants the two-year-old’s fluidity; he wants to be a girl, wants to be called ‘she’, demands that the world accept the identity he wants to assume simply because (s)he says that’s what (s)he is. Identity run amok. It’s all OK because next week he’ll want to be a ‘he/him’ again; it’s so easy to change a profile and a pronoun. But what about the core identity, personality…that’s where the real problem resides. The situation is textbook for sociopathic absence of self-awareness. One has to stand aghast that a biological reality that worked for several hundred million years, the undisputable fact of biological sex, thanks to compelled speech, has been shelved in favor of individual preference of subjective gender identity — and arbitrary, ambiguous pronouns. The dissemination of this notion and its promulgation even in legislation has wreaked tremendous confusion among impressionable young people; the young have become the sacrificial victims of sinister political agendas. This has become what some have called a psychogenic epidemic, and has increased overall negative emotion to catastrophic levels. Where self-consciousness was once spoken of as a positive attribute of human beings, the new self-consciousness loaded with negative emotion, the experience of guilt, shame, anxiety, confusion; unresolved puberty and psychophysical transformation results in gender dysphoria at best, psychological, spiritual, or physical suicidal ideation or successful self-harm at worst. Add to this mix the problem of male-female physical dimorphism and the perception of body dysmorphia, gender dysphoria, and emotional contagion among peer groups, and the situation approaches critical mass. Remember now that we are dealing largely with young or immatured adults who have stalled at 2-years old psychologically. Why has this become the problem that it is today? The short answer is toxic cultural conditioning (TCC) and stereotyping, and add to that politically approved, compelled social scripts. For the agendas to work, religion and transcendent spirituality have to go! The solid bedrock of tradition and traditional core values need to be erased and a new foundation of crumbling stone substituted; anxiety, fear, confusion, uncertainty makes any group or population easily controllable. You see if you are a boy but you are smallish, non-athletic, like creative activities rather than physical activities, like people and cooperation rather than competition, then Western society plants the seed of doubt of your masculinity, you look like a boy but maybe you’re not. Two routes are available: effeminacy or hypermasculinity, both self-destructive mechanisms and both socially mock-worthy. Social media has become the breeding ground for asocial socially anxious people with no conversational ability but loaded with a litany of obsessive thoughts about themselves, and worse, subclinical or clinical narcissism and negative emotion, or borderline anthropophobia[4] or allodoxaphobia[5]. The fact is that most human beings have some level of variability in temperament, a healthy flexibility but that variability does not mean that one’s biological reality is disordered or expendable. At the extreme we have the man who claims to be a woman and who says he feels he is a woman but has sex with women; his claim to be in some bizarre gendered way a ‘woman’ has clearly been disproved! Nor is running away from something like intersexual effeminacy or phallic hypermasculinity into fantasy the way to confront or resolve any disharmony or dysphoria, rather to be mindful and focused, as Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ teaches. And guess what? The social media networks are set up in such a way as to provide a stage for all of this to play out; so that casual subsurface derogatory derisive narcissistic mocking is not only allowed by the so-called Community Standards Police (CSP) — not human supervision but AI algorithms telling you, the human, that you’re violating some other algorithm; no dialogue just a notification —, but staggeringly prevalent on the more pedestrian platforms like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, TikTok, etc. The rampant epidemic of allodoxaphobia, the fear of others’ opinions, means that if you disagree or offer a contrary analysis, you will likely be accused of harassment or bullying by the Community Standards Police, and warned if not suspended! The closest example I can think of when illustrating the parody of stereotypical males and females is just that, a parody. Take for example is the fiction genre of the romance novel, most of which are written either by women or for women or both, and in which the men in the novels are nothing like real men, because they are men written for women. The same can be said about women in porn — or for that matter, the men in porn —; they are nothing like real men or women, they are parodies. So why do real-life men and women try to associate with them, even to emulate them? Good question. This is narcissistic delusion in conflict with reality itself. One of the reasons for this is, well, confusion. A man has complex inherent feelings and sensations that really need to be expressed but he, the man, is told that he should not express them, that there is a laundry list of things that he can express appropriately and only those, or risk being sanctioned. So he becomes psychospiritually confused and feels dissociated from his nature; he is now a neurotic. One of the aims of Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ is to show a man how he can become aware of and accept himself (Mascul-IN-Touch℠), and then how he can meaningfully become aware of and relate to another man (Mascul-IN-Timacy℠). He can be both the fierce warrior and the gentle companion, and the outside world reaps the benefits but doesn’t know why. Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ is built upon a bedrock foundation of self-affirming masculine spirituality, masculine self-enchantment. First, let me state that categorically I do not endorse the pitiful label LGBTQ, because I do not lump lesbians and gay men together; they are fundamentally different. Nor do I conflate lesbian and gay with trans; again, they are fundamentally different. The “Q” is yet another story but it has not yet been clearly defined. The Woke agenda is hypercountercultural and destructive in a very negative way, since it has made demands without the opportunity for dialogue, much less compromise, increasing confusion and anxiety to toxic levels. Men have to create a more nurturing, authentic ecology for themselves. Second, I believe the artefactual gender dysphoria that had been the bane of a conspicuous minority of men for generations is now the gender dysphoria of all of Western masculinity. The confusion, anxiety, and hate that has emerged from the movements over the past 50 or so years, since the 1970s has reached the most insidious, pernicious, and harmful levels by having destroyed the ability to communicate and erased any sense of tradition and core values, while disseminating epidemic anxiety and confusion, propagating negative emotional contagion among young people and intergenerational warfare. The result has been internecine ideological warfare and a sort of inter- and intra-group cannibalism; it signals the collapse of Western society. While the mantra is human rights, equality, social justice, the truth is quite different. Blurring or erasing completely the distinctions of male and female, masculinity and femininity, demonizing one while canonizing the other has negatively transformed human responsiveness, emphasizing negative emotion like depression, fear, anxiety, anger, shame and guilt while reducing self-esteem and self-awareness. The result is psychic insult and narcissistic rage, an example of which is what happens when one inadvertently uses the wrong pronoun. That’s the ecology in which Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ and the Mascul-IN-Touch℠ and Mascul-IN-Timacy℠ programs were born and evolved, and the environment in which we have to serve. To be clear, our basic homoerotic yogic Tantra precepts are: the male is distinct from the female, masculinity and maleness is inherently good, healthy masculinity is the healthy balanced expression of the metaphysical Masculine and Feminine Principles, true masculinity is healthy homoeroticism defined as creative sensuality, healthy masculinity must include personal and social ethics. Healthy masculinity is possible only with self-awareness, acceptance of healthy vulnerability, the ability to surrender and to trust. That’s a core principle, a central pathway, the camino real of Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠. The self-described gay or bisexual — all human beings are inherently homoerotic — man does not have to express his countercultural persona by trying to emulate a woman or to ‘be’ a woman. The discussion of what a woman is is far beyond the scope of this discussion, and has gone beyond the point of confusion or even reason. Enough said. Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠  does not define what a man is nor what a woman is; both terms are highly culturally bound and biologically determined. Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ does define masculinity and femininity in terms of the metaphysical Masculine and Feminine Principles and nurtures their expression in the individual in a healthy and transformative way. In this sense, every man can be said — and this has been shown scientifically — to be androphilic, homoerotic, androgynous, bisexual, and in my language, amphibian; in Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ we do not speak of either/or but in terms of both/and. This is not a New Age or a postmodern concept or mindset, it is an accepted fact that has been taught and described since ancient times, for more than 5000 years, at least. While admitting that Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ is based on ancient wisdom, that ancient wisdom has been reframed in terms of the needs of 21st century men, particularly men-who-love-men (MLM), men who find satisfying, beautiful, natural healthy expression in homoerotic relationship and engagement based on the principles of classical eight-limb or aṣṭāṅga (अष्टाङ्ग) yoga philosophy, and in the framework of tāntric ritual and transformation. An unfortunate fact is that most men live in a chronic state of self-ignorance, emotional lethargy, transformation anxiety or general depression. They are hyperaware of the perceived need to embody the stereotype of maleness and masculinity, and they have been made extremely uncomfortable with and constrained by that situation. The depression arises in a man’s inability to live his self-awareness, his nature, which because of cultural conditioning must be suppressed. In other words, the 21^st century Western man lives a life of chronic exogenous neurosis.

So let me ask these questions again: Don’t you think it’s time to change direction in your life? You don’t want to spend your life as a stereotype, a cipher, or a cast member acting out the script of a third rate play, do you? Have your answers changed?

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[1] Survivor’s guilt is a response to an event in which someone else experienced loss but you did not. It is not necessarily a response to the loss of life, it could also be the emotion experienced at someone else’s the loss of property, health, dignity, identity or any number of other things that are of value to people. [2] I am referring here to those men who obviously want only to exhibit themselves and titillate the voyeurs on social media, some of whom will actually pay to see more poses or even sexual acts performed by these narcissist-exhibitionists. I am not referring to men who in the interest of good health and longevity engage in regular physical activity, and as the result have a buff, trim, proportioned, and attractive body at any age. Basically, this is a question of balance and proportion, something that is healthy and good, versus imbalance and disproportion, which is unnatural and immoral. The motivation must also be considered: Why is the man engaging in the particular activity and what good is being achieved by his activity? Does his activity promote good or evil? [3] Identity politics, also commonly referred to as the politics of identity or identity-based politics, is a phrase that is widely used in the social sciences and humanities to describe the deployment of the category of identity as a tool to frame political claims, promote political ideologies, or stimulate and orientate social and political action, usually in a larger context of inequality or injustice and with the aim of asserting group distinctiveness and belonging and gaining power and recognition. (Source: Neofotistos, Vasiliki . “Identity Politics”. In obo in Anthropology. 7 Feb. 2023. <https://www.oxfordbibliographies.com/, last accessed on February 6, 2023) [4] Fear of other people. [5] Fear of other people’s opinions.

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For starters, let’s be clear about what a friend and friendship is

No matter what Facebook might call its subscribers, a Facebook friend is not a friend. A Facebook relationship is not a friendship. Facebook has done a great deal of damage by diluting the importance and value of friends and friendship; Facebook has done irreparable damage to its subscribers by making them think that numbers and algorithms are the same as human relationships. They’re not. And if you are one of those ciphers who believes Facebook is the place to find friends and relationships, you are a fool.

Yes, I have a Facebook account, and Yes, I reach out to men on Facebook to offer my Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ and my Mascul-IN-Touch℠ & Mascul-IN-Timacy℠ programs. I use Facebook in the same way Facebook uses you and me: as a tool.
Next time you are on Facebook, take a moment and just surf some of the “People You May Know” ribbon and do something you may never have done before: Think about what you see and how that person is presenting himself. What about the profile image? Do you really think it’s really that person? Have a look at some of the names. Do you really think that’s his real name? The bottom line is that the photos and the names are generally fake and phony!

And given the fact that the photos and the names are fake, why is the first question you ask when someone wants to friend you, “Can you send a picture?” What makes you think the picture is going to be real? Wake up!

Another idiotic question is, “How old are you?” First of all, why should age make any difference in a friendship relationship? Why is age important to you? Now that’s a red flag if there ever was one.

Want to get blocked immediately? Just ask me for a picture or ask me how old. You’re history in a New York minute.
Another pet peeve is when someone asks me what I do or where I’m from. I’m one of those men who has posted a c-o-m-p-l-e-t-e profile on all of my social media accounts, unlike most social media users who have practically nothing in their profile, except for the fake name and fake photo. Look, if you don’t care enough to check out my profile before contacting me, you’re a loser from the start, and I’ll make short work of you. I took the time and had the courtesy to provide you and the public with a complete profile. Read it!

For those of you who use Facebook, for example, and are using it as a tool to reach out and inform possible clients about your programs or services, you’re likely not to know a great many of the people you contact. If you already knew them, what would be the sense of doing a Facebook search to find them? So, again, there’s something very bizarre about social media, particularly Facebook, when it comes to reaching out to find potential friends, when Facebook wants you to already know the person before sending an invitation to hook up. It just doesn’t make sense, at least to my thinking.

With that thought in mind, I have received the pop-up message on Facebook,

Duh-huh! And I really have to wonder what’s going on in those empty heads at Facebook. Well, the likely answer is that it is an algorithm or AI responding without human supervision. That’s why it appears to be idiotic to the human mind. But that doesn’t account for some of the impressions and messages delivered by some of the user names and images posted as profiles! Some of the names are so imbecilic that you can easily peg them as fake, but they somehow got past the Facebook Community Standards police without a question. So how can you trust anyone who is so insecure as to feel the need to create an obviously fake identity? You can’t. Instant remove and instant block.

Facebook Becomes More Fakebook Than Much Else

Now, as for the profile pictures and the page images and the cover photos that appear on the profiles. On the one hand, some of the profiles are not intended to be personal and the pages you see them on are not personal pages; they are promoting an activity, a program, or a business. In the case of professional accounts/pages the owner may post a text slogan, a logo, his store or business front, or his product; it’s all legit. As far as I’m concerned, a service provider can present himself through any image he chooses; if it is persuasive, it will work, and he’ll benefit from the choice.
It’s a different kettle of fish when it’s a personal page and the subscriber is “representing” himself to the general public. What does his image tell us about him? Here are some takes on this question, some common types that frequently appear on Fakebook, for example: Just hover over the item to see my comments.

• Man appears masked or face obscured
• Man appears with gun
• Man appears in body-builder pose
• Man appears in some outrageous outfit
• Man appears emphasizing his genitals
• Man appears half out of frame
• Man appears in obviously ancient photo
• Man posts a picture but it doesn’t appear to be the man
• Man appears staring into phone
• Man appears with tongue out
• Man appears trying to look tough, bad-ass
• Man appears in professional looking photo
• Man appears in family group
• Man in group photo with grandma/granddad or mom/dad
• Only dog or other pet appears
• Man appears with face partially covered with “mask”
• Man-in-nature shot
• Man in rainbow circle or similar LGBTQ theme
• Profile image of cartoon character or animation figure
• Man trying to look sexy but looks stupid, instead
• Man posing with dead fish or other dead animal
• Man posing with dark/sunglasses
• Man poses with political, religious, or other slogan like “I got my COVID Vaccination”
• Man posts profile image you know has been hijacked from the Internet
• Man posts image of a celebrity as his profile picture
• Man posts image of a western male when he is obviously Asian

Those are just a few of the absolutely ridiculous bad tries I have experienced on social media, particularly on Facebook, which seems to be the slum of social media, with far more bottom feeders that other platforms like LinkedIn, which has a very upscale, professional demographic. But say what you will, Facebook continues to be the most widespread, most populous platform in sheer numbers, so it may continue to be a venue with some value as a promotional or marketing tool, even if you have a lot of work ahead of you separating the gems from the junk.

So, the take-home is:

• If you invite me to friend you or to like your page, and if you fall into any of the above categories, don’t bother. You’ll just be inviting me to block you.
• If you meet into any of the above descriptions but are really a nice guy and are really interested in homoerotic yogic Tantra, please correct your profile defects before contacting me because I do carefully and critically read profiles.
• If I invite you to connect on social media, I probably don’t know you, but I’d like to connect with you
• If I send you an invitation to connect, and you accept, I expect you viewed my profile before you accepted
• If you accepted my invitation to connect and have read my profile, please do not ask for more pictures or for my age; all that means is that you didn’t read my profile or are dyslexic
• Whatever you do, do not ask me for explicit pictures of my anatomy: Instant block! You have revealed yourself to be a perv.
• Understand that I make friends the old-fashion way: I learn about the person, and over time establish a relationship with that person. I don’t need Facebook to do that.
• I reach out to men on Facebook because I can reach men from all over, who may be interested and benefit from what I do. If a man responds, there is a good chance that we will establish a very worthwhile and deep relationship, and we may even become friends.
• The main purpose of my reaching out to men on social media is to promote the mindset and lifestyle of Masculine Spirituality and the spirituality of the Divine Masculine and Sacred Masculinity; I do this through the Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠ and Mascul-IN-Touch℠ & Mascul-IN-Timacy℠ programs.
• If you are interested in a very special relationship and in Homoerotic Yogic Tantra℠, then you should respond to my invitation to connect, and enjoy the ride.
• Never burn a bridge before you cross it; open the package, see what it contains, explore it before you accept or reject it.
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The first of the three groups, the youngest men, stand to reap the greatest benefits from a masculine spirituality that fosters and cultivates self-awareness, masculine spirituality, groundedness, and the ability to simplify and let go of harmful attachments and false goals. Not only will they have the opportunity to choose a more fulfilling lifestyle and healthier mindset, they will benefit most because they will likely have more time to enjoy those benefits. On the other hand, they are the most difficult to persuade because of the overall confusion, the distrust they have learned, and their general lack of tradition, values, and self-esteem. Another problem is the fact that they have such deplorable role models; educators, leaders, clergy have all failed in providing positive role models for these young men. Here’s where committed older men, steeped in Homoerotic Yogic Tantra offer this group the greatest returns but requires commitment, energy, and devotion, investments that many younger men are unwilling or unable to make. Paradoxically, whereas the 30-50s are more settled, they are unsettled. This group have spent and survived most of the exuberance of the inexperienced and immature years, and have settled into careers but for the majority of men in this age group, those careers are tantamount to a death march. Moreover, these men face numerous humiliations in the marketplace and at the job. Again, a middle-aged white male has little going for him in today’s world, and wherever he turns he sees potential hostility or adversity. While the 18-30s can derive the greatest long-term dividends from Homoerotic Yogic Tantra, the 30-50s make up the group that most needs the benefit of yogic science and philosophy and tāntric spirituality in order to cope efficiently with the ubiquitous challenges of masculinity, identity, and status. Once a man is fully immersed in the principles and practices, mindset, lifestyle of HYT, he becomes a better self and a more selfless servant to others. The 50-70+ man is probably the most grounded; he’s been there and done that — and I mean all of that. There’s not much an awakened, self-aware, mature man hasn’t experienced and evaluated; he’s in the most authentic position to ‘take the best and leave the rest.” He’s more discerning of what is true and what is fake, he can spot a bullshitter from a mile away, and offers and demands authenticity. Unfortunately, such men are a very small minority of the general population, and they may come across as arrogant or intolerant, until one takes the time to appreciate who they are.These men are either quite capable of just leaning back and watching the show or they’ve become sociopaths or closet cases, unable to deal with the attitudes, politics, and scripts being performed. Oddly enough, both of these groups can derive substantial, life-changing benefit from the Homoerotic Yogic Tantra lifestyle, science, philosophy, and practices. This group is the group that serves selflessly as mentors for the two younger groups; the 50-70+ men who serve as mentors and facilitators are remarkable products of self-awareness and resiliance, and they are able to confer this “grace” or “sacrament” to the younger men in discernment. What I have presented above is, of course, a gross generalization of my observations and experiences but is well-established science as well. I would be remiss if I weren’t to share that I have identified great wisdom and virtue in each of these groups and, even if I have broken them down into age-delimited groups, ɪ ᴅᴏ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴇᴍᴘʜᴀꜱɪᴢᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴛᴇᴀᴄʜ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴀɢᴇ ɪꜱ ᴀ ᴍɪɴᴅꜱᴇᴛ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴀɢᴇ ꜱʜᴏᴜʟᴅ ɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ᴘʟᴀʏ ᴀ ᴘᴀʀᴛ ɪɴ ʜᴏᴍᴏᴇʀᴏᴛɪᴄ ʏᴏɢɪᴄ ᴛᴀɴᴛʀᴀ ᴀꜱ ᴀ ʟɪꜰᴇꜱᴛʏʟᴇ ᴏʀ ᴀꜱ ᴀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴜɴɪᴛʏ. The basis for that statement is far to complex to be discussed in a short article, and requires a great deal of self-awareness, awakening, and reflection to be truly appreciated but once a man gets his arms around homoeroticism, vulnerability, and intimacy, and he embraces the philosphy of yoga and the practices and rituals of tantra, he finds there is no other path but the path of the tantric Hero-Warrior. 𝔼𝕧𝕖𝕣𝕪 𝕞𝕒𝕟, 𝕣𝕖𝕘𝕒𝕣𝕕𝕝𝕖𝕤𝕤 𝕠𝕗 𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕠𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕟𝕥𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟, 𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕥𝕦𝕤, 𝕝𝕠𝕔𝕦𝕤 𝕚𝕟 𝕝𝕚𝕗𝕖, 𝕠𝕣 𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕗𝕒𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕠𝕣 𝕓𝕖𝕝𝕚𝕖𝕗 𝕥𝕣𝕒𝕕𝕚𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟, 𝕨𝕚𝕝𝕝 𝕓𝕖𝕟𝕖𝕗𝕚𝕥 𝕗𝕣𝕠𝕞 𝕥𝕙𝕖 ℍ𝕠𝕞𝕠𝕖𝕣𝕠𝕥𝕚𝕔 𝕋𝕒𝕟𝕥𝕣𝕒:𝕄𝕒𝕤𝕔𝕦𝕝-𝕀ℕ-𝕋𝕠𝕦𝕔𝕙℠ 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕄𝕒𝕤𝕔𝕦𝕝-𝕀ℕ-𝕋𝕚𝕞𝕒𝕔𝕪℠ 𝕡𝕣𝕠𝕘𝕣𝕒𝕞𝕤 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕥𝕖𝕒𝕔𝕙 𝕒𝕨𝕒𝕜𝕖𝕟𝕚𝕟𝕘, 𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕗-𝕒𝕨𝕒𝕣𝕖𝕟𝕖𝕤𝕤, 𝕕𝕚𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕖 𝕞𝕒𝕤𝕔𝕦𝕝𝕚𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕪, 𝕤𝕦𝕣𝕣𝕖𝕟𝕕𝕖𝕣 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕥𝕙𝕪 𝕧𝕦𝕝𝕟𝕖𝕣𝕒𝕓𝕚𝕝𝕚𝕥𝕪, 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕒 𝕥𝕣𝕒𝕟𝕤𝕔𝕖𝕟𝕕𝕖𝕟𝕥 𝕤𝕡𝕚𝕣𝕚𝕥𝕦𝕒𝕝𝕚𝕥𝕪. Register now for any one of the several available programs, and learn what’s right for you. Register at Patreon, and give new meaning to your life as a man.

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Dāka Karuṇā T. (William) दाक करुणा तान्त्रिक

ॐ शान्तिः शान्तिः शान्तिः ॥ Oṃ śānti, śānti, śāntiḥ || Peace to you in body, heart-mind, and spirit!

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The first of the 16-week cycles of 2022 begins on Monday, February 28, 2022. We wish all those who are starting out in the program as well as those who are continuing their journey all the best, peace and joy!

If you’re not already part of the community of homoerotic yogic Tantra Warriors, you need to join us now. Don’t wait. Get started in a brand new cycle starting soon! More information below:

Reflection, meditation, journaling are all components of the homoerotic yogic Tantra system embodied in the Homoerotic Tantra:Mascul-IN-Touch℠ and the Mascul-IN-Timacy℠ programs, and produce amazing results in practitioners who are committed to self-awareness and positive transformation. While the many other components of Homoerotic Tantra ℠ are indispensable for complete realization of the benefits of the exercises and practices, reflection, meditation, and journaling are the glue that holds everything together.

While it may be true that the system is principally for homoerotic men, and is most beneficial if practiced in the context of the Homoerotic Tantra:Mascul-IN-Touch℠ and the Mascul-IN-Timacy℠ programs, anyone of any gender, age, etc. will benefit from a regular mediation discipline. Welcome to all!

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Announcement

Reflection & meditation have become even more convenient with the release of the new e-book compilation, all revised, of the 108 Days of Reflection and Meditation content. The entire content plus bonus supplemental reading is now available as and ebook formatted for Kindle® or other PDF reader. Daka will share details in an upcoming article, so stay tuned!

Participants in the Homoerotic Tantra:Mascul-IN-Touch℠ and the Mascul-IN-Timacy℠ programs will also be pleased to know that the entire content of the two 16-week programs teaching solo-cultivation and dual-cultivation, plus the Sacred Union postures will be available as ebooks that can be used with Kindle® or other PDF reader. Daka will share details in an upcoming article, so stay tuned!

The following titles are currently available as ebooks:

Kindle® or other PDF reader. Daka will share details in an upcoming article, so stay tuned!

The Homoerotic Man’s Guide to the Practice of Yogic Tantra Series

• Volume I: Solo-Cultivation Practices & Exercises
• Volume II: Dual-Cultivation Practices & Exercises
• Volume III: Homoerotic Divine Union Āsana-s
• Volume IV: 108 Days of Reflection & Meditation
• Volume V: Selected Appendices & Supplements

Supplementary and complementary modules will be provided on a no-charge, complimentary basis with proof of purchase of any of the above ebooks. Supplementary modules and volumes are provided to registered participants in Homoerotic Tantra ℠ programs at the end of each paid 16-week cycle.

• Journaling Guidelines for Homoerotic Tantra ℠
• Adoration of the Masculine Wand Light
• Meditation Guidelines
• The Homoerotic Yogic Tantra Ritual Manual

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ॐ असतो मा सद्गमय
OṃAsato Mā Sadgamaya[1]

ॐ असतो मा सद्गमय ।
तमसो मा ज्योतिर्गमय ।
मृत्योर्मा अमृतं गमय ।
ॐ शान्तिः शान्तिः शान्तिः ॥

Oṃ Asato Mā Sad-Gamaya |
Tamaso Mā Jyotir-Gamaya |
Mṛtyor-Mā Amṛtam Gamaya |
Oṃ Shāntiḥ Shāntiḥ Shāntiḥ ||

[1] Meaning:  Lead us from the unreal to the real / Lead us from darkness to light / Lead us from death to immortality / Aum peace, peace, peace!

The mantra above is the Pavamānamantra (पवमान मन्त्र) one of the essential purification or śānti mantras we use in homoerotic yogic tantra. It is a mantra that seekers, aspirants, and devotees chant before every session. It’s also one of the exciting bonuses of being a homoerotic tantra practitioner: you learn a new language without even knowing it!

I would like to ask all readers, followers, seekers, aspirants, and bhākta-s to join with me in sending our blessings and support to all those men who are taking this step towards ecstatic transformation.

I find myself in the sacred and privileged place as mentor, preceptor, and spiritual guide, as well as fellow traveler. I am blessed and grateful to find myself in this position as your spiritual guide and wounded-healer-in-residence. I pledge my best efforts and most authentic guidance to you all and welcome you into our Saṅgha (सङ्घ), our community of homoerotic men following the Kṣatriyadharma (क्षत्रियधर्म), the Path of the Warrior.

ॐ गम गणपतये नमः
Om Gam Ganapataye Namaha

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A Major 2020 Accomplishment!

The complete revision and updating of the current collection of practices, exercises, and supplements has been completed, and the Homoerotic Tantra:Mascul-IN-Touch℠ and Homoerotic Hesion℠ exercises and practical are ready for distiribution to seekers and aspirants, and sponsor/patrons over the regular 16-week program period.

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A Major 2020 Accomplishment!

The complete revision and updating of the current collection of practices, exercises, and supplements has been completed, and the Homoerotic Tantra:Mascul-IN-Touch℠ and Homoerotic Hesion℠ exercises and practical are ready for distiribution to seekers and aspirants, and sponsor/patrons over the regular 16-week program period.

Read the article on LinkedIn at Homoerotic Tantra Program Makeover Completed! Hurrah!